Six Overlooked Reasons why you are struggling with your finances: Reason #4 - Not reaching out for Support

It can be very difficult for anyone to reach out for support when they have a challenge that they are trying to deal with. The challenges that are the hardest to deal with often have a large social stigma attached to it. Financial challenges are no exception, we live in a society where people are harshly judged based upon their PERCEIVED wealth. Since adults with ADD have a tendency to be more emotional sensitive, the social stigma placed of having financial challenges if often magnified for the individual.

The social stigma attached to having financial challenges make it very likely that someone who is struggling will want to deal with their issue by themselves. When I have struggled with financial issues I dealt with them by myself. I did not want to share with anyone the stupid mistakes I made, or the stupid things I spent money on. On a short term basis I was able to deal with my issues by myself, however I struggled with maintain motivation once my financial crisis had been averted. Other people have issues with dealing with the crisis and deepen the financial hole that they are in. Reaching out for support is critical when dealing with financial challenges on a long term basis.

There are a few ways to reach out for support. The easiest way to start is to go on line and find a financial support group.  You can read about the problems that other people are having and you can share your problems without having the whole world know who you are. My favorite support network is No Credit Needed, it was started by a guy who wanted support for his financial challenges but could not find it among the people that he already knew. The site offers advice and a community of people who are dealing with their financial challenges.

You can reach out to select family and friends. This can be tricky, unless you can find someone who you are comfortable sharing your problems with. However it can be very beneficial to have someone else that you can be accountable to without the fear that they will judge your harshly. It can also be helpful to have someone to go shopping with, someone to pay bills with, or someone to help you with big financial decisions. As an absolute last resort, a parent, family member, or friend can help you with a short term loan, but be very very careful, because the dynamic of the relationship changes until you pay the money back. The person loaning you the money has the right to expect some accountability for your actions until the loan is paid off.

You can also work with a professional to help support you. You can hire a financial, life, or ADHD coach to help you and to hold you accountable for what you want to accomplish.